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There are people who have actually "reverse engineered" the answer to this already.

They've wondered if "attribute X" is positive or negative with women and then they'll go out and meet 1000+ different women to see how they actually react to it. Then they take notes.

Of course, what you quickly find out when studying it is that women are attracted to someone who just "has their stuff together."

I went through all this study myself and it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. I changed more in just the first 2 months of doing this than in years of pursuing other personal growth methods. The reason is because you're forced to stop asking other people their opinions and actually *start finding out for yourself* You have no idea how many misperceptions and false beliefs you have about the opposite sex until they routinely get disproved to your face again and again in real interactions.

It's an incredible realization when you wake up one day and find out that most of what you thought was wrong, and if you start asking that question about other areas of your life too you can end up in some amazing places.

I could boil it down and give you the rough "blueprint" here, but that would be pointless since you'd be missing the context of everything. Since I'm not going to plug a service on the msgboard, if you're really interested I can refer you to one of the resources I used that has the approach down right IMHO. In fact, the first 100 things they have you do have nothing to do with hitting on women..they all have to do with breaking down your false beliefs and getting you to clean up your own life.

As an example..I had to beg for change for one of the advanced assignments. The point was to both get me accustomed to facing something I am probably scared of, as well as to gain information about how people view someone who wants something from them. It was a really eye opening experience. Don't worry..you won't be assigned this off the bat and not until you can actually handle it. They start out really easy.

If you actually follow through with this, rest assured you will notice A) you're more comfortable around everyone, women included B) everyone will be more attracted to you, women included. C) The rest of your life will flow much more easily too . Point C of course takes us back to the fact that, in the end, it just comes down to having your stuff together.

Seriously, us men are REALLY lucky that a so easily accessible medium like this exists for personal growth (meeting and talking to women). It can be tough being a guy, but I feel like had I been a woman, I would have had a much harder time learning some of the lessons that I've been fortunate enough to have women teach me.