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Originally Posted by Luccianna

but it's another to make a fuss of it, and make a point of letting your own gf or wife know how attractive you think she is.

I'm not sure anyone was advocating being really blantant and disrespectful about it. We're talking about it being okay to notice that another person is attractive...not some guy whistling and hollering at another woman while he's with his girlfriend.

Originally Posted by Luccianna

Then ironically you say the person you are trying to make insecure is insecure and needs to work on themselves.

In my case, it's true though. My bf wasn't doing anything blatant or disrespectful. He'd barely glance and I'd feel diminished. That's my insecurity, not something he's doing wrong.

Originally Posted by Luccianna

Also going to Hooters is a big red flag for a man in a serious relationship.

I don't see why that alone is a red flag?? Maybe he really likes the wings. I hear they are really good. Aside from the ridiculous outfits, the women who work there are servers like in any other restaurant. I've seen some really gorgeous women working in nice restaurants. Can he not eat there either?

Originally Posted by Luccianna

I have thought about this a lot because someone I had a relationship with in the past always made a big point of showing interest in other women in public, or at work, and it was a big red flag, looking back on it.

Yeah, I think we are just talking about different things.