[MidasGirl]

My take is that if you and your partner haven't discussed (and agreed on) having an "open" relationship then infidelity is an inconsiderate act. Just like going out and spending money to make an expensive 'impulse buy' item without discussing it with your partner is. Marriage or relationships are about sacrifice and compromise. If you don't want to compromise or sacrifice then stay out of them.

Also, it isn't about what one person wants. I was having this talk with one of my girlfriends whose husband is really "pushing" the idea of a 3-some on her (involving another girl that is). She says she is totally not turned on by girls, and she doesn't want to invite another woman into their marriage anyway. He keeps pushing for it. Sorry. If your partner is strongly opposed to something, and you decide to have a temper tantrum like a 2 yr old cuz you have to have it, you are closer to a loser than you think!