Connect with friends. Avoid drinking to excess. Avoid excess in food or other stress relievers. Do something new and compelling in the time you would have been spending on the relationship. Take things that remind you of the relationship and put them out of sight. If you are reminded of something good, remind yourself that you are an amazing, vital person living a long, captivating story. Accept that it is over, and accept the freedom that brings. Appreciate your freedom. I believe that there are two sources of pain. First, much of the pain comes from uncertainty and unfamiliarity with being single, rather than memories of being together. Secondly, great pain can be derived from loneliness. Combat both with social activities that fill the "couple time" you have blocked off in your life. If you find yourself in pain because you would be talking to your ex about a problem, confide in a close friend instead.
Filling the "couple space" in your life has two benefits. First, it decreases the pain that you would otherwise feel from the separation. Secondly, it increases your ability to cope with that pain, either alone or with help.
Be well, and let us know how it goes.  |