I beg to differ with the opinion it is ok to keep looking...
all that much when you have a solid relationship. It's one thing to notice someone who is good looking in the street, out of the corner of your eye, and I am sure a good looking woman doesn't need to be pointed out to men, all men all notice every single one, but it's another to make a fuss of it, and make a point of letting your own gf or wife know how attractive you think she is. It's just a testing of limits and boundaries that can and often does quickly degenerate into a power play. Then ironically you say the person you are trying to make insecure is insecure and needs to work on themselves. Games!
Also going to Hooters is a big red flag for a man in a serious relationship. There is no reason to act like your entire life is one long bachelor party.
If there is, you are taking your own relationship for granted and you need to work on yourself or get with someone who can hold your attention.
Of course people have their right to privacy and mental freedom and people look at others all the time, but if a lot of attention is paid, or you start spending money and extra time to do it, like go to places like Hooters or strip clubs, that is putting a lot of priority there.
There's a difference between appreciating beauty and indulging so much it makes the woman you are with wonder about you. In NYC burlesque is being revived and many couples go, it is all done with a sense of humor and artistry, very different than going to a place like Hooters that even the name is making fun of a woman's anatomy. There's a fine line between being human and using that as an excuse to be discourteous and disrespectful.
I have thought about this a lot because someone I had a relationship with in the past always made a big point of showing interest in other women in public, or at work, and it was a big red flag, looking back on it.
The original poster, I think, because he is in a long distance relationship, has been too deprived for too long and is reacting to strong bodily impulses. If he doesn't get near his gf soon, something probably will happen to derail his long distance relationship....it's nature's way of making sure you don't stay by yourself forever....
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