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Originally Posted by Lychee  I believe that if you look into a person's eyes you can get a good idea of their personality and character.
My question is, is there any technique or strategy you can use to get more accurate impressions of a person by looking into their eyes aside from experience or hindsight? |
There is, in NLP, the concept of eye accessing cues... it is my opinion that as taught it is so much baloney, but with calibration, some evidence seems to support it (at least in my experience... I would like to research it further).
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For example, watch what happens when someone
really has to work hard to access an internal representation (ask them something really tough)... very often their eyes go here, then there, then somewhere else... they really
look for an answer. So, when lying on the fly for example, people might look to the right and to the left several times, look down (they would likely do this very quickly)... in NLP terms that would suggest that they are accessing internal representations of imaginary events (the lie), then checking them against remembered events (for plausability) and against their own internal dialogue for internal consistency.
But (and I cannot stress this enough, since it is rarely stressed in books or on trainings) the model is meaningless unless each individual is calibrated and constantly recalibrated as many factors may influence how accessing cues come into play. I would also suggest that bringing into conscious awareness a process that is probably already working effectively unconsciously actually makes the job harder... our unconscious usually does a pretty good job of reading an individual (when we get ourselves the hell out of the way)... it is our trust in the process (or lack of trust) that disrupts the process.
Love and light
Adam