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ns123 · 06-19-2008, 07:01 PM

FreelanceWanderer,

I was married and incredibly happy and secure for 6 years before we decided to have a child. And I absolutely adored children, always have since I was a small child.

I had the same fear you have. If I have a child, I won't be able to do this, or that, or follow whatever... well, I've had a child, and you know what? I DON'T WANT to do this, or that, or whatever anymore. Having a child opened me up to completely and entirely new experiences that I never imagined before. Never even thought of!

Before we had children, we traveled a lot - all over the world, visiting many different countries. It was fast moving, exciting, and great to talk about. Now that we have a child (we will have more), our life is so boring to talk about. No jet-setting to exotic countries. But you know what? I don't miss the exotic countries! My every day life is blessed and a gift just because I can spend it with my son. I tell people, before you have kids, you have lots of freedom to experience things that are really cool to talk about, but after you have kids, every day is an awesome amazing experience, but very boring to talk about.

Before we had children, another one of my fears was, will this change us? I am happy now - I love my husband. I love my freedom. Why do I want to change that? But like you, I felt like I was missing something. Like something was wrong, but not really wrong, but not quite right. It was my signal, my sign, from my inner voice, telling me I was ready to move to another level.

I don't miss my old exciting life. I don't miss the adventures I had in exotic places. My every day life is exciting, around every corner a new experience, a flashlight in the dark lights the way to new adventure. It's all a matter of perspective. And really, before I had my son, I never even imagined it would be this amazing.

So if your inner voice is telling you something, listen to it.

06-19-2008, 07:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
ns123 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 658	FreelanceWanderer, I was married and incredibly happy and secure for 6 years before we decided to have a child. And I absolutely adored children, always have since I was a small child. I had the same fear you have. If I have a child, I won't be able to do this, or that, or follow whatever... well, I've had a child, and you know what? I DON'T WANT to do this, or that, or whatever anymore. Having a child opened me up to completely and entirely new experiences that I never imagined before. Never even thought of! Before we had children, we traveled a lot - all over the world, visiting many different countries. It was fast moving, exciting, and great to talk about. Now that we have a child (we will have more), our life is so boring to talk about. No jet-setting to exotic countries. But you know what? I don't miss the exotic countries! My every day life is blessed and a gift just because I can spend it with my son. I tell people, before you have kids, you have lots of freedom to experience things that are really cool to talk about, but after you have kids, every day is an awesome amazing experience, but very boring to talk about. Before we had children, another one of my fears was, will this change us? I am happy now - I love my husband. I love my freedom. Why do I want to change that? But like you, I felt like I was missing something. Like something was wrong, but not really wrong, but not quite right. It was my signal, my sign, from my inner voice, telling me I was ready to move to another level. I don't miss my old exciting life. I don't miss the adventures I had in exotic places. My every day life is exciting, around every corner a new experience, a flashlight in the dark lights the way to new adventure. It's all a matter of perspective. And really, before I had my son, I never even imagined it would be this amazing. So if your inner voice is telling you something, listen to it.