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Hi,

I know somebody who is suing owing to her belief that she was short changed in her divorce.

I'm suspicious of her motives though (after spending time in the company of her ex-husband for one gave me a more balanced view).

The divorce occurred, assets were split and the financial spoils large by average levels.

However, she hasn't earned anything else since the divorce, no job for example, only an allowance from her ex.

She lost the case, now owes a fortune in court costs and lawyers fees and is now appealing, however by any stretch of imagination she is bankrupt but hasn't admitted it.

She causes a lot of misery within her family, especially her children whom she blames and takes money from to make her feel better I think, although I am not sure.

Her argument is that she has no pension and winning the case is the pension, even though she's pretty much admitted (without actually saying it verbally) that she's lying and is trying to use the divorce courts for a sympathy vote.

I am very confused (as this person is my long term girlfriend's mother) and it sits in me very uneasily, I just don't possess this attitude to money and how it can be 'earned' in such a manner.

It's really stressing me out and I don't know what to do.

My girlfriend is learning to cope and is of a point of view now that her mother is unstable, however she believes both her parents are as bad as each other but in different ways; an opinion I would heartedly agree with.

Anyone else in such a situation or who could offer advice?

I believe this to be an unethical way to gain money.