What a variety of responses in here. Fascinating the ways people look at this.
I don't see how you can not notice hot people. I think it's fun to point them out to each other. Usually we crack each other up over it.
Maybe you need to find someone who's ok with it... Looking
, not ogling.
Make it fun. Start pointing out cute guys to her. Notice how she doesn't leave you for them. See. It's a process. You're feeling compelled only because it's not 'allowed.' Don't sit there and dwell on anyone's parts or anything. Just show her how cool you can be about it. Like, give her a compliment afterward. Change the subject right after. It'll reinforce to her that it's no big deal.
In the final analysis, it comes down to this: When you appreciate a slice of pizza, does it mean you don't still love steak?
I mean I like ice cream.
...But not every night.