Rockchick, what do you really *know* about a person by learning the kind of stuff they put on a MySpace page? Their preferences in music, food, clothing style, hobbies and talents -- the outer trappings. For myself, if I were on a date or hanging out with someone for a few hours, learning about the trappings would be just the fluff -- fun, but not so important. I am far more interested in who that person is being, and you can't accurately evaluate that just by looking at the way they wear their hair or what bands they listen to.
When you get caught up in thinking you know a person by knowing their outer trappings, you're limiting the intimacy you have with them. Same goes with the relationship with yourself! When you think you are your own outer trappings, you're limiting your intimacy with you.
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