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Originally Posted by cylon  Well I guess it comes down to if you believe in destiny. The type of woman I am attracted to changes as I grow and develop--I wouldn't want to be stuck with who I thought was my ideal mate a couple years ago when I have changed so much since then. I tend to believe that you can find a good mate now, based on who you are this moment.
I also think people come into our lives for a reason. I used to think it was all pre-arranged. Now I think it is as you are focusing on whatever it is, people who match that, will pop up in your life. And you're also popping up in their life. So in a sense there is this connection. I don't think it's all random.
The whole soul-mate thing while very romantic in my view is limiting. If it's an abundant world then it would follow that there's also an abundance of people out there who are perfectly suited to you.
Being afraid to ask what you want because you think it could "disqualify" this potential person... I see it as taking away your power. If I want a girl with characteristics, right now, that my "soul mate" doesn't have, then fine. Find me a new soul-mate.  |
Oh, but I do believe in free will. For me IM is living proof of having free will to a dazzling degree. And what you say is absolutely true, I know it through personal experience; whatever you focus on, people and events matching that vibration are bound to pop up in your life. I see it everyday, I need no proof to believe it, I know it.
And I also think the world has an abundant supply of great mates out there for everyone, people to love and be loved by and to grow with, and in a way all these folks are soul-mates cause their soul agrees with your soul to get together and play together.
This twin-soul-theory, there's really not a romantic notion to it, not at least from my pov; just like you wouldn't necessarily think it romantic that every particle in this Universe is supposed to have one anti-particle, or that every DNA-strand has exactly one other half.
It IS an abundant Universe at the surface level and yet, at the heart of it at least to me there is a singularity. So in my pov it'd be only natural to assume that the more you progress towards the heart of the Universe, towards the chore of existence in all aspects, the more the diversity would fall away. So the assumption of two souls which are like particle and anti-particle(complementary but whole in themselves) or like two DNA-strands (two halves of one whole) would be a thing pretty close to the source in my eyes and could be actually some truth out there.
As I said, it doesn't matter to your everyday happiness on a surface existence level, and I don't think for one sec that it's supposed to limit you in any way that there's a twin soul out there if there really was such a thing, but when I look at how the Universe is made up in other areas I think there might actually be something to the theory.
Quiet apart from that I'm not saying that you're afraid to say what you want in a partner if you don't make a list of qualities, but that to say what you want is actually a sign of being afraid and not recognizing the true power and greatness behind the Universe; cause you think some qualities combined in a person would give you the happiness you seek, when actually the Universe might have something much better and more fulfilling in store for you.
Actually making a list of the qualities you want if seen like this, is telling the Universe in what packaging you think the fulfillment you seek should arrive in, and thus encroaching on the "How". If you're out to find a funny, smart blonde than I guess it'd still do the trick, but if you look for true love and the most fulfilling relationship out there for you right now, it might not work as well as it could if you made a list of packaging qualities.