[garentee]

Change of pace. I was having an incredibly difficult time with the idea that I could not hang out with her one on one. The idea that cannot spend time with someone that brings such good things into my life is ridiculous. We just have to change the vibe. Remove the temptation. If I love her unconditionally and do not put any expectations on her it can be done. we got ourselves into this situation and as growing and developing adults we can certainly get out. We are going to work this out and it will be fine. She cannot move forward with what ever she has to do with her husband with a piece of her heart in my possession. All three of us get hurt if I do not spend time with her one on one. ALl three of us get hurt if she and I hold on to a piece of each others hearts. We need to work with in the parameters of what we have now. If at a later time the stars line up for us we can have that kind of relationship.Right now though I can only love without condition and be the best friend to both her and her husband, and truthfully myself too. If we moved forward with the physical side of the affair It would not be as beneficial as this will be. Not that it is going to be easy..