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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  So how can one have good self esteem when there is no self at all? How can you express your individuality,celebrate your uniqueness,and love yourself when we are all one,we are all the same,and there is no self,really? If things about me dont make me who i am,then where is my identity? Sure my name is Shelly and i like music but,music isnt me,and i am not REALLY Shelly,so...how can one build self esteem when you arent supposed to identify with what makes you YOU?
If you boil away all the things that make a person who they are,what would make us unique? Then we'd be just like animals,only mating with whatever animal you run across next cuz theyre all just the same anyway! I like people for what makes them different than others,so if you take that away,you wouldnt like anyone cuz they'd all be the same! |
What is self-esteem? Is it the delusion you are not a worthwhile person because of some physical or social reason? I think in this 'self-help' day and age like depression/anxiety, lack of self-esteem has found a place to stay too easily.
This is likely because of the Material culture and possibly due to the inadquecies of Bible based religion.
The question is not how to have self-worth when knowing we are all the same.
The question SHOULD BE: Why do I have this delusion I am not as worthy as others?
The Ego ... is your image of you. Based on all your experiences and crap ... you have come to define yourself as some character that you see yourself as. Some people like to push their character further-further (esp. Males) ... this is the Ego-Battle (check out my other posts).
**But essentially as a by-product of self-realisation and imagination ... there came about this intangible creature called the Ego!!!
So in short, question WHY you have lack of self-esteem ... not how to get rid of it!!!
(I will gurantee you, the reason will be so childish or irrelevant you will just kick yourself and smile
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