I think that for a lot of people it's not even really a considered decision. It's just the societal default. For me, I've always wanted to have kids one way or another. I don't think anyone can ever be 100% ready to have kids, but I think you can be 100% sure you want to. You can also be 100% sure you don't want kids. If you fall somewhere in the middle, I think you just make a decision and decide to work it out and not regret it. Most of the "issues" that stop people from wanting kids can be worked around, in my opinion (that is not to say that anyone should want kids, just that if you kind of do, but are just concerned about the how it can be overcome). Who says you can't go to Africa for 6 months if you have a kid? I plan on taking my kids everywhere. What an experience! I wish I'd had some of that growing up.
You say you both love kids, you are financially secure. You are obviously very intelligent so I think any of the questions are things that you could easily come up with solutions to. Let's see, if I said well, just be a doting aunt and uncle to your sibling's kids what would you say?
|