Is attachment to form low self-esteem?
Does that make sense?
In other words when one is feeling incomplete they will look for things to feel complete and also be having issues of feeling worthy or lovable.
When one is feeling complete (which is a state of non-attachment to form, I think), there is no need to look for things to feel complete and there is acceptance at what ever level of sense of self you have going.
Does having high self esteem actually make you identify with form? Maybe not. Liking yourself is where it starts, and then liking the rest of your environment as part of you can be an expanded sense of self that isn't trying to define a new self but allows awareness to touch your whole sphere of experience.
It's a great question -how to feel god about your self while not identifying with a self. Maybe it's like feeling good about nature or a tree, that you look at yourself as a creation that is worthy of being happy, maybe that's what make unattached self-esteem. I keep thinking about this question, it seems to be an important one.
I bet Tolle would say we should feel good about our self. What happened to him was he was totally depressed and probably had really low self-esteem and then one day said he can't live with himself. Then what happened? He realized that self that he can't live with is not really him. And if you look at him now, he probably likes that self (that isn't him in the spiritual sense) a lot better than when he was all depressed.
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