Well I guess it comes down to if you believe in destiny. The type of woman I am attracted to changes as I grow and develop--I wouldn't want to be stuck with who I thought was my ideal mate a couple years ago when I have changed so much since then. I tend to believe that you can find a good mate now, based on who you are this moment.
I also think people come into our lives for a reason. I used to think it was all pre-arranged. Now I think it is as you are focusing on whatever it is, people who match that, will pop up in your life. And you're also popping up in their life. So in a sense there is this connection. I don't think it's all random.
The whole soul-mate thing while very romantic in my view is limiting. If it's an abundant world then it would follow that there's also an abundance of people out there who are perfectly suited to you.
Being afraid to ask what you want because you think it could "disqualify" this potential person... I see it as taking away your power. If I want a girl with characteristics, right now, that my "soul mate" doesn't have, then fine. Find me a new soul-mate.
