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Originally Posted by cylon  There could be many ones. But to just pick someone and say "you're it", don't you have to be their one as well? You can't force your oneness on them or vice versa. |
Of course not, all my thoughts circling this question rely on the assumption that finding your other half of some spiritual DNA strand or whatever would also be a case of mutual attraction. Like in just every other let's get together relationship, if the other person doesn't feel like he or she was meant for you, you're barking up the wrong tree and better move along.
But what if you do have this feeling that there's someone out there you ultimately belong together with and you have no idea who that one might be? I guess we all have our childhood-environmental preferences and dislikes as far as partners go, but this person might not even closely fit into that.
To make a list and jot down all the things you do want in a partner, the mate the Universe considers the ultimate choice for you might not be the one you're describing and you sort of limit yourself. Which I guess is a thing that not only would be true for The One but goes for all relationships that are there to support your growth.
As I said, I'm not sure what to think about The One. All relationships so far supported my growth in some way and I'd rank each of them as positive experiences and am thankful for them. And yet when I look at the men I've met so far, sometimes I have this odd feeling. Where the women I come across in my life seem to mirror aspects of me, the men in my life- not all but at least the ones who had the greatest impact- actually seem to mirror different aspects of one guy to me, some stranger out there. And I wonder, who am I learning about here and why?
Like I said, it's just this odd feeling, and I can be making a mistake here just like with all other assumptions of how life works. Since I've come to believe that life is essentially great either way, it's not the sort of question that keeps me awake at night any longer, but I do wonder about it.