[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Nicketas

Its better to be natural than to try to be a pick up artist, otherwise you'll fail to attract any women who are worth while.

Originally Posted by Jamie

I think good advice too, about being yourself, and non-contrived. In fact, I'd say PUA is about developing yourself as a person so that you can be just your natural uncontrived self around women (strong, centred, natural, powerful), rather than just flumixing along, and so impressed by the woman that you emotionally crumble, legs turn to jelly etc.

To me, the end result of PUA and PD, is to be completely natural, uncontrived and spontaneous with all people in all kinds of situations. So when I see a hot chick, I can treat her with the same common courtesy, I would a down and out on the street, or a member of royalty, to treat all people with the same dignity and respect and not give special privages to a hot chick, just because my body wants to bone hers.

To be truly natural is to be mindless, uncontrolled, unthinking. Actually "going with the flow" properly is a product of years of exercise and training.

The essence of PUA is to establish your mind in a different frame. Instead of fixating on soulmates and one true loves, you fixate on practice and technique. Eventually, you no longer need to think about it, like a child one day no longer needs to figure out how to balance themselves while walking. And at that point, you've overridden your fears and you have become a different self: a self that, naturally, is confident and attractive.

And maybe you'll meet your one true love, someday. And when you do, you'll be confident, attractive, and head-over-heels, to boot. But that's better than just being head-over-heels.