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Originally Posted by cylon  After being through something like this myself, I see it's all just neediness and low self-esteem. There are so many people on this planet that there are likely thousands and thousands of great matches for all of us out there. "But it HAS to be them. HAS TO BE THEM!!!!" They are just freaking human beings. They are not perfect. It does not have to be just them. You associate something with certain person, that mixes with your scarcity mentality, which mixes with your lack of self-love, and you've got full-blown obsession.
Not healthy. Much better to fall in love with qualities and characteristics and look to find people who match them. |
But THAT is why we like that person,BECAUSE they have the qualitities and characteristics that we like! I dont just go around falling in love with anyone,there are reasons why i like them. But i'm past that now where i think a certain guy HAS to be the one...since my "obsession" that i mentioned up there,i have liked about 4 guys since then,although not nearly as much. Of course,they're all famous or semi-famous,but thats cuz i never meet anyone in real life that i like,or that has the characteristics that i like.
Now i feel like a freak for just admitting that. But i cant help it.