I think Helgi's right to suggest allowing your concern to arise, observe it, and then let it go. There's a trick that works well for me: have a code word (a happy, kind of neutral word, like "flapjack") that you say to yourself whenever you recognize that you're needlessly worrying. Your code word will allow you to quickly release the power that the worry holds over you, and the more you practice it, the less often the worry will come to you.
(Anyway, the sheer number of possible judgements someone might be making about you makes it probable that your guess would be wrong. And those judgements all reflect back on themselves in any case; it's not about you.) |