[NightSpirit]

I would agree with poster that said try to stop judging your thoughts and the events in your life as either good or bad and just allow yourself to be. A lot of your trouble with your dad seems not only to be coming from his actions but from your disappointment that you can't leave and feel trapped.

It might help to try to start everyday fresh as a new day without allowing the pain of the memories of yesterday to pile up. And instead of ruminating in your mind over his attutide, what he said, that you can't leave, etc., try replacing those thoughts with the good qualities he has, that he cares about his children and try to see him in a new light...recreate a positive image of your dad.

On a practical side, it seems you have left out the real issue of why your dad is angry about money. Is it coming from a concern that you and your sister are not building toward independence and creating your own lives without his help, spending your money instead of working toward that goal? That is the saddest thing imaginable for a parent, children who cannot take care of themselves. Makes us feel like we have failed and creates worry about what will happen to them when we're gone or cannot help them anymore.

Or does he truly have financial problems and need you and your sister to pay room and board?

Especially at your age, if you have a place to live and are not required to pay your portion of the expenses because he is your dad, you truly are blessed and may not appreciate that until later on. Appreciate it now and let your dad know it and show him working toward your independence is a priority for you and maybe his attitude will change.