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Originally Posted by Angela  cylon, is it not fun for you to initiate encounters with attractive women? |
It's not fun for most guys to walk up to a total stranger and risk rejection. That's what men are faced with. "You go up to her and make something happen." And if you don't, then you're weak and insecure. And if you're weak and insecure, then you don't have the confidence to approach women. Vicious circle.
But it seems I can't avoid that part. Men have to make the first move.
Now when I am introduced, or even know the girl for a short time, then I'm totally fine. I can take it from there and yes it's extremely enjoyable for me.
I went through so long thinking there was something wrong with me. Now that's leaving me. So I'm thinking "ok, go out and meet women." Because I think I'm ready for some non-dramatic, light-hearted fun.
I've really twisted my brain inside and out the last year or so, and the results are starting to show. I don't think I'd be talking this way if I wasn't ready for it.
So I'm thinking, to give myself the best shot, just start visualizing, fall in love with the qualities I respond to, make it clear what I want from life, and then allow it to happen. I never allowed. I thought I was defective.
I wouldn't mind spending some time with a level-headed girl who can make me laugh. Can't believe I denied myself that.