Women lose interest once they catch a guy. The Rules is what works on women, just twisted around to pretend it works on guys. It doesn't. We call that drama and then move on to someone who is more loving and expressive.
Anyway.
After being through something like this myself, I see it's all just neediness and low self-esteem. There are so many people on this planet that there are likely thousands and thousands of great matches for all of us out there. "But it HAS to be them. HAS TO BE THEM!!!!" They are just freaking human beings. They are not perfect. It does not have to be just them. You associate something with certain person, that mixes with your scarcity mentality, which mixes with your lack of self-love, and you've got full-blown obsession.
Not healthy. Much better to fall in love with qualities and characteristics and look to find people who match them.
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