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Originally Posted by Captain Cloudchaser  I've been in a similar situation with my dad, his own criticism of my life is one of the reasons why we're not so close anymore.
I don't know much about spiritual stuff I'm afraid, but perhaps you could approach the situation with logic? Do you pay for the things yourself, or does he pay? If you're paying for all these things that he considers outlandish yourself, then maybe you can try and talk to him about how it is just your own life choice. Perhaps you can try and convince him or show him something that can prove that it's not a waste of money and benefits you?
Depending on what your relationship is like, maybe you could sit down and have a talk about money to calm him down? Work out ways to make his financial side stable, so that he'll feel happier? |
Hey Captain Cloudchaser,
Thank you for your response.
Its very hard to speak with my dad because he can be very emotional and irrational. He's very conflicted on views in his life and sometimes he'll say things I completely agree with but then other days it will go out the window and completely contradict himself and basically I think he's in a huge battle between his ego and himself.
I understand where his money issues stem from, he does work hard and my sister flaunts her spending her own money without consideration of him.. but a lot of the time I do pay my own bills (he makes me show my credit card bills to him which is frustrating because its a way of him controlling me, I'm in my mid twenties and never was a big spender)-- and I do try and explain to him why I make the choices I make but he again, one day will say yes back in older times they had these remedies that worked etc. then the next day he will completely disregard that he said that, deny it and say he believes the opposite.
For him he bought into the material world. He's very unsatisfied with it, but can't seemed to move past it and the idea of lack of control of money. I don't really know what to do other then to leave him to his own devices and hope that one day it will dawn on him through my own actions?