There are always a proper time and place for everything... and this is also so true whenever we speak. There are things that shouldn't be said and there are things that should be said. There are things that should be said now and there are thing that shouldn't be.
Think before we speak... how should we say it and how to deliver it. Often we don't say what we mean and often we don't mean what we say.
Learning to open your mouth and when to keep it shut is not a small issue. It's actually a big deal. It is not limited to one circumstance in your life. It actually affects everypart of your life,.. why? because we are born to communicate everyday and it happens everyday. It is a big aspect in personal development.
We are emotional creatures, emotions over logic in most cases. What are coming out of our mouths? Is it inspirational, developmental or constructive? Or is it demotivational, detrimental, destructive? It not just affect to the people who we come across with but also it also affects us. It is a ripple effect and a wave of effect to how our relationships with others will be like. Do we think about the outcome of what we are saying or going to say.
We could never be leaders to people if we can't communicate with them on a respectable level. A manager complains that he can't control his staff and that the staff hates him. If only the manager can hear/aware what words that comes out of his mouth, then it would not be a surprise.
There are a proper control when we are in an argument or debate with another. Often arguments are not won. Should we be wasting our time to argue with someone who doesn't have a clue of what we are talking about?
Should we then focus of explaining it more clear to them? And once we explained it to the best of our ability to conveyed our concept, should we know and understand when to end an argument or to continue with it?
Sometimes it's best to say little, and little is enough. Sometimes this is not appropriate, but the important lesson is when. When is it appropriate? Sometimes it's best not say nothing at all, when is that approporiate?
I remember one time when I said something I shouldn't have and all hell broke lose. Looking back, I can remember the times that I shouldn't have opened my mouth. I was so stupid for saying certain things. It was out of place and at the wrong time. Don't get me wrong, I'm not simply talking about big arguments, at times I said those things over a coffee get together.
I didn't say it right,... if only I said it differently. Do I regret it?... No, I'm happy that I learned from my mistakes.
Do you remember a time when you opened your mouth when you shouldn't have? Would things have turned out differently if you did say or didn't say?