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Fullcrum · 06-14-2008, 05:59 AM

When we say to accept things as they are, we accept that they are like that in their current condition, and then have the power to change it without resisting, in our heads, the situation.

It goes something like this:

"I hate my life. I have no friends and no social life."

"Hmm, I don't like. Well, I accept that I have no friends. There. I have no friends right now."

"Now I can go make friends."

NOT

"I hate my life. I have no friends and no social life."

"Damn it, I hate this, I think I should make friends."

*As you're talking to people; this is the internal monologue* "Damn, I have no friends, I wish I'd have made friends before. Why did it take so long for me to make friends?"

You won't be always talking to yourself in your head RESISTING what already IS saying "Why didn't I make friends before? Why am I like this? Why do I have to put so much work into this?" You just do whatever it is that you think makes the best life for you, from wherever you are.

Accepting does not remove the power to change.

Acceptance facilitates change.

06-14-2008, 05:59 AM	#6 (permalink)
Fullcrum Family Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,094	When we say to accept things as they are, we accept that they are like that in their current condition, and then have the power to change it without resisting, in our heads, the situation. It goes something like this: "I hate my life. I have no friends and no social life." "Hmm, I don't like. Well, I accept that I have no friends. There. I have no friends right now." "Now I can go make friends." NOT "I hate my life. I have no friends and no social life." "Damn it, I hate this, I think I should make friends." As you're talking to people; this is the internal monologue "Damn, I have no friends, I wish I'd have made friends before. Why did it take so long for me to make friends?" You won't be always talking to yourself in your head RESISTING what already IS saying "Why didn't I make friends before? Why am I like this? Why do I have to put so much work into this?" You just do whatever it is that you think makes the best life for you, from wherever you are. Accepting does not remove the power to change. Acceptance facilitates change. Last edited by Fullcrum; 06-14-2008 at 06:01 AM.