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Originally Posted by Remiel  I would tie this back to steve's article Self-Acceptance vs. Personal Growth
To myself there is a need to be brutally honest with where I am NOW. While knowing where I'm going. You said that thinking you sound hideous makes you more tense. Why? You choose your response so if you are more tense because you know you have a horrible voice then I would suggest that its not the horrible voice that is the problem. Its your belief that having a horrible voice is bad or embaressing or something else detrimental. I personally have an untrained voice and it sounded pretty bad (taking voice lessons now hence the past tense). Does this make me tense up? No. It motivates me to learn how to use my voice. Currently I am taking voice lessons to learn how to use my voice and its going swell.
So basically I see a need to be honest with who I am and strive for who I know I can be. So instead of believing that I have a horrible voice I believe I have an untrained voice and simply need to learn how to use it. Self delusion doesn't help me because I don't acknowledge that I have a problem that needs to be fixed. With the voice its even trickier because of how we speak and hear our own voice.
The same idea can be applied anywhere I believe. Being honest with myself is the best gift I can give myself. I know exactly where I am at now. I can then figure out how to improve it if I don't like it.
Self confidence like you mentioned in your response is a whole nother issue. If I don't have confidence in who I am then yes I will be worse than who I could be if I had complete confidence in myself. |
I don't think it's ever good to say my anything is "horrible". That would never be of help to anyone. "Needs improvement" okay, but using negative language can only dissuade and discourage.