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Originally Posted by JJP  You say you've never been on a date, so let's start there. What have you done in the past when you've met a woman you are interested in dating? Break it down into pieces for us so we can see what you need to work on. |
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Originally Posted by JJP You say you've never been on a date, so let's start there. What have you done in the past when you've met a woman you are interested in dating? Break it down into pieces for us so we can see what you need to work on. |
wel... I've done everything. Included doing nothing... I've tried marriage bureaus, discos, bars, webs... I've tried all the different kind of approaches you can imagine, even the weirdest ones... I've tried to "try nothing", so "be myself", etc.
For instance in a marriage bureau I talked with two women. It was a flash date game. We had a great time together. (It was two woman for every man tables). There was a game of messages we should write and then the messages should be read loud by the hostress of the game or sent private to one person.
They made the hostress said loud they loved how natural I was talking about the situation of flirting at discos.
I sent one girl a message asking what does she does on weekends? "So many things..." etc. She gave me her phone number... But when I asked to go out someday, maybe tomorrow or next week, the two alone or with friends... she said... that... we'll continue to see each other in the marriage bureau :-/.
And kind of ignored me during the rest of the night. I sent her two more messages but she doesn't have replied...
That's the usual process. Things may go right sometimes until I ask them out.
Now I've known another girl in a course. We have a great time together, we laugh... she's single (I think). I asked her out... "this weekend at the cinema" or so... she told me she couldn't this weekend because of she has arranged a meeting with friends but maybe yes some other weekend. (She might not be much interested in me if she prefers to go out with friends...)
"And what if I leave the course because I find a job and we'll never see each other again?" (We both are unemployed, but some months ago I wasn't unemployed and I had no success anyway... well, this is the only girl I've tried to date that knows that I'm unemployed anyway...).
Then, to my surprise she said... "If you find a job, you can come here (to the course) sometimes to see me and to see if we can go out some weekend"
I think then she's interested, single or so...?
Well, that's the further I've get with a woman.
At least I have a maybe. But I don't have nothing really.
She asked me for my number and I asked her for hers. Instead of doing that thing of coming to the course... because maybe I'll be working in those hours.
And that's all by the moment. Well, If I'm an optimist... on Thursday I will ask the girl if she's free the weekend and she would say yes, etc.
If I'm an pessimist, she will never be free in weekends and all I will have is a phone number of someone that's not really interested in me... like the first girl for instance.
I think all this is very detailed, though some details of the dialogues can be misunderstood by the Spanish-English translation.