Playlife, I've read your comments in this thread with interest. Byron Katie's The Work has been very helpful to me, but as has already been mentioned you might connect better with someone else. Watching Oprah today reminded me of a book I read some time ago that I thought was wonderfully helpful and I'd like to suggest it to you: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. She has a lot to say about SHOULDS
There are some basic exercises to do and some wonderful affirmations to bring about the changes you want to make in your thoughts, and thus in your life. It might be something that would work better for you now. Good luck!