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Originally Posted by Playlife  "I should feel this pain because I am feeling this pain" is also "shoulding" though. |
Yes. You're saying, "what is should be, and what should be, is." That's a far more peaceful and effective way of being, as far as I'm concerned, than, "what isn't, should be; and what should be, isn't!"
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To me, saying that something should be like how it is means that the current situation is right and I approve it. Is it right that people get murdered?
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Once again, (Playlife! How many times do I have to say this?!
) accepting is not the same thing as condoning. But as long as you are arguing with reality, you are powerless to take effective action in the face of it. Let's say a guy is pointing a gun at your face. You could overwhelm yourself and say, "You shouldn't be pointing a gun at my face! This shouldn't be happening!" Or you could say to yourself, "okay, here I am, a guy is pointing a gun at my face. What's my next right action?" Which way of being do you think would be more effective in getting you what you want, and having the best possible outcome for everyone?
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I guess it'd be better if I stick with my own pain for now, eh?  |
If you want to. I prefer feeling good on purpose.
