Well, if you told him that you didn't want this, or ask for this, and he says he's doing it for YOU, he's simple using you as a sheep-goat for your own dissatisfaction.
I can understand if he's honestly doing it to try and support you etc, but if it's making you more miserable, and he does nothing about it, then obviously that's not the case.
You need to just lay it out for him.
If he's happy with what he's doing, then great, let him do it. You'll just have to accept it and a. deal with it or b. find somebody else.
If he's willing to change it or work on your lives, great. But if this is something he wants and enjoys, let him. Just tell him it's not for you though. Hopefully it wont come to that, but if it's the case, better now than 10 years after marriage. |