I guess the question is what you really desire, what's your aim in telling her about your sexual past?
If you get the feel that her past is a secret that's bothering her, and you want to let her know you love her no matter what, I think bringing the topic up on neutral grounds would be a better way to go about it. I don't know, maybe rent a movie that deals with this sort of thing and make your pov on it clear in chatting about that movie. Any way you could let her know how you feel in a way that is safe and comfy for her and doesn't make demands on her to open up.
If you don't feel like it's anything bothering her, just accept it silently and move on with your life together.
If on the other hand your past is a secret that's bothering you and you wish to come clear of it and find acceptance with her, then I guess there's no way but to tell her about it. It's true that the only acceptance that really matters can come from yourself, but I think it's also natural that you wish to be accepted by your mate for who you really are. And I wouldn't underestimate the healing quality of love, I do believe that bringing "secrets" to the light in a safe surrounding and having them accepted has just this healing effect.
But fact is you can't force other people to reveal themselves to you just as it's a bad idea to rip their clothing off their backs, even if you truly believe a little sunshine would do them good. So you can't expect your girlfriend to tell you of whatever part of her past might be bothering her and it'd be disrespectful to try to push her in any sort of way to do so.
Then again if you feel turned on by her having a wild past just like you, and maybe you want to bring it up to rekindle that past or the wildness of it together in some way, that again is a totally different take on it.
So I guess before you do anything I'd try to become absolutely clear about your motives.
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