[igmistro]

Forgive me if this is harsh, but I think what you need is a dose of reality and some hard love.

What I'm about to tell you comes from some painful personal growth, so please understand that I'm not judging you... I've been there myself and I just want to help...

First, you need to get some standards... Second, you have a scarcity mentality... Third, you need to stop thinking of women as nothing more then a wet orifice for you to masturbate in... I'll explain...

One… Standards...
A quick dose of reality… She cheated on you, she put your health at risk by having sex with (your words) a POS womanizer behind your back, she lied to you repeatedly, she embarrassed you in front of your friends and schoolmates (trust me they all know), she disrespected you to your face, and the list goes on... Are any of these things on your list of things you would want from your lover? Your girlfriend? Your wife? You know what happens if you don’t stand up for yourself, don’t you? Let me tell you a secret. Women hate weak men. You know why? Because they can’t trust them. Whether they realize it or not consciously they know that if they can control a man - so can any other woman. This girl will never be able to respect you again even if she wants to. You must have standards, and you must not compromise, ever. Sit your ass down, get a piece of paper and write down what are your requirements for a partner… Think in terms of things that are important to you… (i.e. loyal, honest, does not live with her parents, daddy’s girl, open minded, traditional, non-smoker, pothead, bisexual and likes to experiment, frigid, serious, playful… whatever floats your boat)… Take an hour, a day, a month – whatever it takes, but figure it out… and then stick to it… It’s called being a man…

Two… Scarcity…
One of the keys to having standards is abundance mentality. Let me ask you this, if you knew that sometime during the next year you will meet your true love (or whatever your ultimate vision is), would you give a damn about this girl? If you knew that the Universe (or God or whatever) will always supply you with abundance of love, friendship and sex. If you knew that no matter what - you will have a good and happy life. How long would you allow someone to mistreat you in that case? Take a piece of paper and write on it. “I trust the universe to supply my abundance of pu**y.” Tape it to your bathroom mirror. Repeat this phrase as often as you can. I promise you you’ll be amazed how much better you will feel once you start to believe it.

Three…
There is nothing wrong about wanting a woman just for sex. But sex (at least good sex) is not the same as jerking off in another wet orifice. There are many ways to explain this, but I’ll appeal to the male ego in this case. If you want women beating a path to your door and sending all of their cute friends over, you have to understand one thing. Good sex is more emotional then physical. You have to make a woman feel special. Screwing a girl because you’re horny and want to get back at your ex will earn you a reputation as a bad lover (trust me women talk about this to other women) and then you will truly have a scarcity…

Anyways… If any of this struck a nerve with you (especially if any of it made you feel angry at yourself) let me know and I’ll be happy to share my experiences and how I got through them… Otherwise I wish you good luck… You’ll get through this eventually; just remember to learn from it…