What if it's not my pain? Ehh... does this one even qualify?
For example, "children in Africa shouldn't starve"? The reality is, they do. So, is their starvation then somehow justified? Deserved, even?
Are all "should"-s bad, then? I mean, if I say that sun shouldn't be hot, that's insane. But if I say that terrorists shouldn't blow up cars and buildings - while they do - that's also then insane? Terrorists should blow up stuff? Otherwise they wouldn't be terrorists, eh?
Terrorists are like that, take it or leave it, you can resist it and cause yourself suffering, or you can accept it... Cooperate with terrorists, listen to them, maybe they ain't so bad after all...
Is famine acceptable? We shouldn't resist terrorists?
(Sorry for such political examples. I have others too though.
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