When you feel pain and you say, "I shouldn't be feeling this pain," you are arguing with reality. Reality doesn't care about your shoulds. That pain is not going to go away because you say you shouldn't feel it. In fact, the more you *should* it, the more tenaciously it's likely to hurt you.
If you feel pain and you say, "I should feel this pain because I am feeling this pain," then you are accepting the reality of your moment -- you're no longer resisting it. Fighting with the pain turns it into suffering, and it's amazing how once you stop fighting, the suffering stops, too. You may still feel the pain, but your resources are freed up to take your next right action -- maybe you will take a pain reliever, or maybe you will get out your heating pad, or maybe you will look inside for the lesson that the pain is trying to teach you, or maybe you'll learn to live with it. And maybe -- it was ALL suffering, and ZERO authentic pain, and when you let go of fighting with it, it *poof* disappears.
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