Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina
or just keep looking at other women until she's ready to deal with them.
I think that's a fair solution. I have a lot of insecurity, so when I do happen to notice my bf looking at someone else, it does sting. But that is really my problem. I don't tend to look much at other guys so I felt that other people were like me -- when in a relationship don't feel the need to look around. But that's not true of everyone. Noticing that another woman looks good doesn't mean my bf thinks I look ugly even though that's what I've made it mean in the past. That's the kind of insecurity I am working on.
He doesn't do it noticeably in front of me out of respect, but I've let him know that while I am insecure, he doesn't need to stop noticing other good looking women. When a person is secure within themselves they wouldn't make it mean something bad about themself when their partner notices the beauty in someone else.