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Originally Posted by Jamie  Ok, and also as you mentioned, for situations where someone is 'angling' for a fight, in any case, it's going to be someone I don't want to be in conversation with; those kind of situations have a very different dynamic, I agree..
I guess how you handle it depends on how aggressive the person is being; if very aggressive; you'll want to get out of there ASAP, and however you feel is best to do that, go for it.
For me; the first thing I'm going to be aware of, is what can this person do to me, i.e. attack me; and I'll want to have in mind a contingency for such an eventuality (and I do do this as I'm walking along the street sometimes).
In terms of what I say, or don't say; I think it can be tricky. I want to calm or cool the person down, to placate them, not heat them up to action. So not being confrontational in my choice of words, should give them nothing to push back against, or react to; I'm not giving them the excuse they're looking for, to take it to a physical level.
That's my first concern.
Other than that, ignore them. |
Great post, and thanks for the feedback
Trying to get someone out of that state is a great idea
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Originally Posted by Brutha Actually I don't think that the techniques you have written about would have helped you in that situation.
In general you write about ways to defend yourself, but defending is not that smart in a conversation because it put the other person into a frame where they attacked you.
It's better to be like water.
To be flexible, be centered and to dance around. |
Interesting Brutha, I appreciate that you are sharing your thoughts though
Then maybe flipping the conversation to something else might have worked in that situation, I guess it's hard to pinpoint every outcome
Thanks all for the feedback, I'm glad you all didn't just agree with my work and were actually honest in your feedback, that's what helps me grow as a writer and as someone in this field - Peace