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Originally Posted by abcZen  Bare in mind, this isn't for a normal conversation (maybe you guys didn't check the post) this is more about a situation that you feel shouldn't be happening.
i.e. irrelevant argument, random bully etc etc |
Ok, and also as you mentioned, for situations where someone is 'angling' for a fight, in any case, it's going to be someone I don't want to be in conversation with; those kind of situations have a very different dynamic, I agree..
I guess how you handle it depends on how aggressive the person is being; if very aggressive; you'll want to get out of there ASAP, and however you feel is best to do that, go for it.
For me; the first thing I'm going to be aware of, is what can this person do to me, i.e. attack me; and I'll want to have in mind a contingency for such an eventuality (and I do do this as I'm walking along the street sometimes).
In terms of what I say, or don't say; I think it can be tricky. I want to calm or cool the person down, to placate them, not heat them up to action. So not being confrontational in my choice of words, should give them nothing to push back against, or react to; I'm not giving them the excuse they're looking for, to take it to a physical level.
That's my first concern.
Other than that, ignore them.