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Originally Posted by Angela  Why would want to control a conversation? Why not dance in it? |
When a conversation is someone that wants to start an argument or someone who is being very negative. It is actually beneficial to them in helping them
get out of that frame.
The same could be said for a random guy who wants to beat you up (this has happened to me). I have had this experience, a random person trying to beat me up that I had never even spoke too, I went home in a police van that night.
Knowing how to deal with their words and get them out of the negativity would have helped immensely.
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Originally Posted by Jamie Yeah, what are the pros' and cons' of controlling the situation, or people?
It takes a lot of energy, and you restrict yourself to your current experience and knowledge (i.e. not open to learning new things, or have other people open up to you and share their experiences with you).
Sometimes, being in control, is like putting on the brakes. Being in control with people can be a major turn-off; they can sense you being controlling, and they just won't open up to you and help you...
Isn't it better to encourage the people around you, to be the best they can be; to make them feel excellent and great, isn't that better than just you feeling excellent and great all on your own? |
Bare in mind, this isn't for a normal conversation (maybe you guys didn't check the post) this is more about a situation that you feel shouldn't be happening.
i.e. irrelevant argument, random bully etc etc