Yeah, what are the pros' and cons' of controlling the situation, or people?
It takes a lot of energy, and you restrict yourself to your current experience and knowledge (i.e. not open to learning new things, or have other people open up to you and share their experiences with you).
Sometimes, being in control, is like putting on the brakes. Being in control with people can be a major turn-off; they can sense you being controlling, and they just won't open up to you and help you...
Isn't it better to encourage the people around you, to be the best they can be; to make them feel excellent and great, isn't that better than just you feeling excellent and great all on your own?
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