When those thoughts come up, you could try thinking about all the people, family, relatives, friends, pets, etc. that love you, accept you, "approve" of you, and care about you unconditionally. You could even include God in there, or the universe, or your higher self, or some higher power if you want. Get it? I guess it makes you remember that you safely belong somewhere already, and counteracts the thoughts of wanting other people's approval. Works for me. Let me know if you try this |