I agree with Angela - I saw some irritation when he mentioned the storm; is there a way you can accept that, rather than arguing?
I believe he's showing love the best way he knows how. I'd have to disagree with Alexjstrandberg's assertion that it's not love; it's not perfect unconditional love, but it is love. My mom does the same thing - she's called three times in the last week because there were going to be BAD storms, maybe TORNADOS! And I needed to keep safe! I just took a deep breath and said, "OK, thanks." She knows I'm going to do what I'd normally do, but she did her part as a mom (as she sees mothering, anyway), I accepted it - done. She doesn't have to be anyone else for me to love her, even though she drives me crazy. I don't have to feed into her drama by arguing.
I think it's Jack Kornfield that tells the story of going back to his parent's house after he'd been away studying Buddhism. He'd argue about their lack of peace, etc. and always left frustrated. After he'd been practicing a bit more, when he went to see his parents, he accepted them as they were, and didn't argue or point out their flaws. Things were peaceful and calm - because HE was peaceful and calm. He says when he went to them as a Buddhist, it didn't go so well; when he went as a Buddha, it was fine.  |