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Wulfen · 11-05-2006, 03:59 PM

Tripp444,

Pardon me if I'm blunt, and correct me if my assumptions are wrong. I'll tell you what I think about your relationship.

The core problem is not that your husband is not aware. The core problem is that he is unable to attract you. A valuable trait for men is that they are leaders, and have initiative. Therefore, if you are a person that likes to grow and strive to be better, let me assume that the initiative in your relationship is in your shoulders. Again, correct me if I'm wrong here.

If that's true, then by you having the initiative he becomes less attractive in your eyes. Furthermore, if you try to change him, that makes him less of a man in your eyes. If he changed himself, he'd be more attractive, but if you force a change in him, he becomes less attractive because the initiative of the change comes from you.

It's a difficult problem indeed, and has no easy solution. The most you can do is point him to the material (for instance, this site) and hope he "gets it", before you reach the point of total lack of attraction to him.

Rock Hard, Ride Free,

Wulfen

11-05-2006, 03:59 PM	#12 (permalink)
Wulfen Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 91	Tripp444, Pardon me if I'm blunt, and correct me if my assumptions are wrong. I'll tell you what I think about your relationship. The core problem is not that your husband is not aware. The core problem is that he is unable to attract you. A valuable trait for men is that they are leaders, and have initiative. Therefore, if you are a person that likes to grow and strive to be better, let me assume that the initiative in your relationship is in your shoulders. Again, correct me if I'm wrong here. If that's true, then by you having the initiative he becomes less attractive in your eyes. Furthermore, if you try to change him, that makes him less of a man in your eyes. If he changed himself, he'd be more attractive, but if you force a change in him, he becomes less attractive because the initiative of the change comes from you. It's a difficult problem indeed, and has no easy solution. The most you can do is point him to the material (for instance, this site) and hope he "gets it", before you reach the point of total lack of attraction to him. Rock Hard, Ride Free, Wulfen Last edited by Wulfen; 11-05-2006 at 04:05 PM.