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Originally Posted by ReallyGoodIdeas

OK You're saying that you haven't had much luck socially. But that's in the past if you want it to be. Coming to the forum and asking the question is good. It sounds like you're recognising a problem and wanting to change it. So let's start right now.

Have a look at the intention/manifestation posts on Steve's blog. Read them. It sounds simplistic, but if you can draw a line in the sand between yesterday and today, and decide that from now on you're aiming positive, that's be a great way to get going. Just because you haven't socially clicked before, just means you've been learning how not to. So do something different. Intend to have good relationships, and read books on how to. Go to the library and read things like "How to make friends and influence people" It started as a sales book, but is full of commonsense tips for getting on with people well. Tip the balance in your favour, put it into practise, have a go.

What interests do you have? What can stir your passions? Find out ways of interacting with other people who are intersted in these things. Joining clubs is another old-fashioned idea that works. Why do you reckon I'm here? ;-)

That's my 2 cents worth anyway.
Go for it!
Hazel

I've read every entry on this site. Read everything on seduction and relationships out there, from The Game by Neil Struss to How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dane Carliege. None of it has ever helped me, man. I try my best to put it into practice but I always fall flat because I care so much about what the other person thinks.

Originally Posted by stephencp

I think your first problem is that you EXPECT "People just find me to be a loser as soon as they meet me, for some reason." You need to expect that people will like you and look for evidence of THAT in your next meeting versus evidence that they don't.

Stephen
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I don't always expect it, it just happens. Its something I do, I just can't work out what.

Originally Posted by placebo

I grew up in a small place (round 5000 people). I could never find friends or girlfriends there. Maybe i could but for some reason i didn't. When i was 15 or 16 it was so depressing, i thought i was the problem. Now i'm in college far from that place, i can see everything from other perspective. i am 3rd year of computer science studies and they are married, unemployed, plumber, mechanics. We were different and that was the reason why we couldn't find same language.

You are only 15, you'll grow up and look things from other side. Try to use this time of loneliness to work on yourself. Maybe their parents think that you are bad company for their kids. Try to improve yourself, prove them they are wrong. Find something that you are better of anyone else and do that all the time. It could be football, science, programing, anything. After a year or two you will be able to provide value to people. If you become football star they will be your fans, if you become the best programmer in the city they will ask you for help, etc.

And believe me, it is really working. I did that by playing basketball. For 18 years I was dork, and then a two thousand people in the gym was screaming my name and kids were waiting for my autographs. Sounds difficult? It isn't, just try. You can't lose anything anyway.

My only "real" talent is something people really aren't interested. It isn't widely respected like being a model or a footballer. Do you have any advice for getting to at least 16 without killing myself? Theres about 7 months to go.