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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  Thank you for that whole post. What do you think a more empowering word would be to replace "cheating?" How do you take on a new pov (when the old one is really ingrained like you said)? |
We talked about shifting pov's in the
spinning ballerina thread. You boldly look, and you let go, and you boldly look some more, and you let go some more.
One thing I always find useful is to articulate the current way of being, or point of view, and ask myself what it's costing me to believe my habitual thought, and what my believing that thought is costing others. With "cheating," it's pretty easy to see that it costs us a lot, isn't it? When you're really present to the price you've been charging yourself and others, a more inspiring way of being (or point of view) tends to rise up, if you boldly look, and you let go.
So, how much do you love your partner? Do you love herm enough to want herm to make the right choices for hermself? Do you want to generate freedom and love for herm? Do you want your relationship to be as conscious as possible, beyond what most people are willing to settle for? If yes, then what point of view would be the most loving and conscious one to take when your partner expresses sexual love for a person other than yourself? What belief would you be willing to try on that would have you loving your life regardless of who puts what where? How would you articulate that point of view for yourself?
For me, when I went through this, the way of being that inspired me was: Being Free. Amazingly, the freedom that I saw possible was only secondarily for him. First and foremost, adopting this perspective was all about ME being free. Funny, huh?