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Originally Posted by drahzar  ...I think she's realised that she cant keep going off without me all the time. |
Drahzar, I think she has realized just the opposite.
You have trained her that you will stay engaged to her, no matter how many times she has sex with other men.
You have established that pattern in your relationship.
If you have a conditional agreement in your relationship, like you agree to sleep only with each other, then it's your responsibility to be a stand for the integrity of that agreement, and to take the right action for yourself. It's no one's fault -- blame and shame are low-consciousness concepts, in my view -- but it is your responsibility. Has she apologized for breaking her word, or made a commitment to keep her promise going forward? Have you examined who you were both being that she felt she needed to break her word to you, and that you felt you needed to react the way you have? Or are you just going along and keeping along, hoping that everything works out for the best?
When you go along and keep along (GAKA), odds are that you are walking straight into a future filled with more of the same.