We make mistakes to learn and grow from them, to evolve. If we dont learn the lessons from out mistakes the universe will continue to send us similar people, similar situations that are designed to teach us something until we wake up and learn.
No, you shouldnt add bad feelings to your mess ups. Its a common thing that people do and it makes them miserable. They think if they beat themselves up enough that they wont make the same mistakes but the universe doesn't work that way. Repression through ignoring, negative conditioning wont get you to stop making them. Whenever you repress something it will appear as though the problem is solved but its not-it's only a matter of time before the things that you repressed come bursting through the surface and you melt down.
Or if you repress then the unwanted feelings, thoughts, behaviors will come out in other odd and unhealthy ways
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