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Originally Posted by Chado2423  I've discovered a unique premis over my life... Telling a clinically depressed person to just be happy and to not worry is like telling a fish to swim out of water. BESIDES THAT'S ALL I WANT TO DO is be happy.
yes I am familiar with the song, btw. YouTube - Bobby Mcferrin - Don't Worry, Be Happy (Robin Williams anyone?)
But... it isn't so easy as that when you have clinical depression. If it was so easy to just wake up and be happy I'd have done that four f'n years ago. But I digress, because no matter how I explain it, you won't understand unless you go through the same or similar problems yourself. Besides Sadness, Grief and Depression AREN'T WRONG. Its okay to feel the woes in life sometimes. Society doesn't want to deal with woes, but they are a vital part of human experience... Anyway, Bobby Mcferrin forgot to write that sadness is necessary if we are to really understand joy. without knowing sadness we can't find out the true meaning of joy. I'm tired of people trying to make me feel like its wrong to have the feelings I feel. |
What steps are you taking to get yourself out of your depression? I've followed your posts, and they all seem focused on how much your life sucks. I'm sure it sucks, but isn't it time to put your energy into getting yourself out of it, rather than focusing on how much it sucks? What are you doing about it?
Pick yourself up and start life over! Sit, moan and feel sorry for yourself - stay in the darkness. Forget the 'poor me' thinking. It's hard, I still struggle with the 'poor me', but when I get out of that mode, joy seeps back into my life.
Thinking about all the negative things that happened keeps the depression alive. Your life can begin right now, if you want it to. I bet you play your past over and over in your mind. Fat lot of good that is doing you! Make peace with it and do what you have to do to feel the joy you are yearning for. Joy is actually all around you but you are soooo focused on your depression, you are not experiencing it.
Feel all the emotions, but without the mental re-run of the past. This is an important key. I've had a personal struggle recently. It has been tough, but I have also felt immense peace and that peace has given me strength. When I felt sad, angry and all the other many emotions, I accepted what I was feeling and allowed them to run their course without my story. YES, I have read Tolle and he is right on.
Ok, so perhaps it is harder to get out of clinical depression. I don't know... But, are you hiding behind it? Is it giving you permission or an excuse to wallow? See it as a challenge. A challenge you can conquer one step at a time. Life would be boring without challenges and this challenge will lead you to new better days.