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Originally Posted by Brutha  If you take risks you will lose sometimes.
Unfortunately there are much more books and articles writing about winning than about losing.
Winning is sometimes easy.
Losing on the other hand is hard.
What do you do when you screwed up?
Sure you should learn from your mistakes, what does that mean?
Should you feel bad emotions when you lose to condition your brain against getting the same result another time? |
If you're pushing the envelope by living consciously and expanding your consciousness everyday, you should be having a huge mixed bag of wins and failures.
In my experience, the failures hugely outweigh the wins because there's so much to learn, and you can only learn by putting your internal model of reality to the test on a regular basis. Also known as pushing the envelope.
Bearing this in mind, we therefore accept failure as a daily occurrence. However, we also come to see that:
1) The next day we are still alive. Bad emotions are there, but they will fade with time. Each time gets a little bit easier till we no longer care about failure. This is conditioning your brain that failure can't kill you. Thus it is slowly demoted as a threat and therefore generates a smaller emotional response each time.
2) The bigger the failure, the bigger the payoff in terms of improvement to your reality model.
Accepting failure is a natural requisite of growth.