Trixxy, I see you've gotten some wonderful suggestions for the other responders here and I hope you can find a way to work with them.
I wanted to ask you more about your headline question. It sounds to me like it's not so much the noticing of differences between yourself and other people that causes you problems, but more the judgements you make about yourself because you've noticed these diferences. For me, comparisons with other people can be very inspiring ("Look at the success of that woman; hmm, if she did all that then it's possible for me to figure out how to do that, if wanted." or "Look at that great car; I want one of those!"). I may not have the success or the car or the whatever that I've noticed but I don't have to make that "not-having" mean anything about myself.
I understand where you're coming from and I would ask yourself what benefit you get from making these judgements about yourself in relation to what you observe about others. If there's no benefit, you could stop tacking on your judgements of yourself. After all, I wonder if you would allow a friend or loved one make those kind of judgements about him- or herself. One of the phrases that helped me break myself of this habit was "the only thing that benefits from a beating is a rug." You're so much more than a rug, Trixxy!
Oh, and as you'll be learning a new style of thinking to replace this old habit, be gentle with yourself and don't judge yourself on your slip-up's but rather on your successes.
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